During childhood, forging friendships comes naturally. You can simply approach someone of similar stature and ask, “Do you want to be best friends?” It’s easy and rewarding. However, applying that approach as an adult will likely garner reactions that range from confusion to outright alarm. Making friends in adulthood can be a challenge, and our best opportunities often arise from workplace interactions. Given the professional setting, it’s advisable to initially maintain a level of formality until you establish rapport with your colleagues.
Here are some strategies for cultivating friendships in the workplace while avoiding awkwardness.
1. Connect with colleagues who share your interests
Identifying a common passion is one of the quickest ways to bond with someone. Be it a love for sports, literature, or the great outdoors, starting from a shared hobby lays a solid groundwork for friendship. So, how can you pinpoint coworkers with similar interests? Begin by spending time in the kitchen (if available). Engage in conversations while enjoying your coffee, and feel free to share your own interests. You could also post flyers to promote activities like a softball team or a book club. (See also: 11 Ways Freelancers and Telecommuters Can Make Friends and Network)
2. Participate in work-related events
Work events can be both company-organized and employee-initiated after-hours gatherings. Skipping these opportunities to socialize more casually can cost you valuable connections. Make an effort to attend the yearly company picnic, potlucks, team outings to unique venues like axe-throwing clubs, and happy hours. These casual settings allow team members to unwind and interact outside of work demands. If you volunteer to be the designated driver, you’ll likely receive complimentary soft drinks throughout the night. (See also: 6 Ways to Split the Bill Without Losing Friends)
3. Dine with others rather than at your desk
Make a habit of enjoying lunch with colleagues at least a few times each week. If it fits your budget, consider visiting nearby lunch spots, as it provides a more relaxed atmosphere away from the office.
4. Bring in breakfast treats
You don’t need to spend much to make an impact with breakfast. A box of donuts, for instance, is a small investment that most will appreciate. Additionally, consider organizing a rotating schedule where colleagues can take turns bringing breakfast items each month. Even on the busiest days, a brief pause for a donut and coffee can be a welcome break.
5. Utilize social media platforms
LinkedIn serves as one of the prime social networks for professionals, making it easy to connect with your coworkers. You can send messages or give recognition to team members who excel in their tasks.
As you become comfortable on LinkedIn, consider expanding your connections to platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. However, be cautious; this represents a deeper engagement in their personal lives. People often prefer to keep their work and private lives separate, so approach this aspect thoughtfully. Also, ensure your social media conduct is professional; any negative rants may not go unnoticed by management and could have repercussions. (See also: 7 Easy Ways to Clean Up Your Image on Social Media)
6. Request assistance from colleagues
If you’re new at your job, seeking help is an effective means to bond with potential friends. Colleagues usually appreciate guiding new hires and sharing their expertise. By asking for help with projects or tasks, you reveal vulnerability, creating an opportunity for deeper connections.
7. Project confidence
Feeling shy or lacking confidence can hinder your ability to forge friendships. Instead, take a moment to reflect on your strengths. What makes you effective in your role? Consider what makes you a supportive friend. Boosting your self-esteem can significantly enhance your ability to connect with others.
8. Display your personality
If possible, infuse your workspace with elements that reflect your interests and hobbies. If you’re a Harry Potter enthusiast, adorn your desk with themed items. If your passion is football, showcase your team colors. If paintballing excites you, hang up pictures or posters from events. When like-minded coworkers notice your enthusiasm, they may seek you out to connect.
